Things I Don't Like Getting Asked

December 30, 2013

Recently, I read about how Rachael over at Pretty in Pink spent her Christmas and she mentioned that she was happy that no one asked her why she was single.  Her post made me think about questions I do NOT like getting asked, so I thought I'd blog about them.

1) Can I borrow your...?  No, I am not greedy and of course I don't mind sharing, but I just have had bad luck when I let people borrow my belongings.  I've found that there are different types of borrowers.  There are those that borrow your stuff and then return it in a timely manner and say thank you, but sadly, even lending things out to my friends is hardly ever this simple.  Most of the time I find that the borrowers hold onto what I lent them for an abnormally long period of time and then I have to awkwardly ask for my stuff back which is always something I dread doing.  It gets even worse when they forget to bring it and I have to ask a second or a third time just to get my own things back.  There are also the borrowers that return your things to you, but in a worse condition...unwashed clothes, bent books, etc.  Finally, there are those who just never return what they took period.  I hate getting asked this question because if I say no, then I seem like I don't trust the person trying to borrow something and feel bad!  If I say yes, then I just worry about whether or not my items will actually be returned.

2) Do you play basketball?  I'm pretty sure every non-basketball playing tall girl hates this question.  Most of the time when I tell people no, they just ask, "Oh, then did you play volleyball then?"  I'm not especially good at sports and just think it's annoying that people think I am a basketball player only because I am tall.  Do I go up to short people and ask them if they're all gymnasts?  NO!  Do I go up to old white men and ask them about golf?  Don't think so!  I guess it wouldn't be so bad if I heard this once in awhile, but I have been asked this throughout my life numerous times and am tired of answering it.

3) Why aren't you engaged yet?  Yes, I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years, so I guess some people just wonder, but I don't even know how to really answer this question.  I don't think every relationship is destined for marriage, and I don't like how when some people ask me this, it is done in almost an accusing way.  This question along with other rude comments got even worse when I was the Maid of Honor in my two younger sisters' weddings in the same summer.  "Lisa, you're next!"  "Your younger sisters beat you!"  "When are you getting married?"  "What, no summer wedding for you?"  Seriously, people!  I just find it stupid how some people make the whole getting married thing into a contest.  I am truly happy for both of my little sisters because they found love and someone to share their lives with.  Maybe one day I'll get married because *I* am ready to, not because I'm pressured to do so by society.

4) Can you hang out with me this weekend?  Unfortunately, working at a movie theater means that our busiest times are when everyone else has time off, so it's very important that I have a good weekend and holiday availability.  I always feel so bad because most of my friends have 9-5 jobs they work Monday-Friday and so it makes sense that they would want to spend time with me on the weekends, but most of the time this just isn't feasible for me.  Sure, I can request days off, but I like to only request off when it's a big deal so that I can be sure to always get the days off that I need.  Plus, usually when I ask for a weekend day off, I just get scheduled less days period.  When I get asked this question, I usually just have to tell my friends no.  I've done it so often that I think some of them have given up on trying to plan something with me during a weekend.

Is there anything that you don't particularly like being asked?
10 comments on "Things I Don't Like Getting Asked"
  1. AGREEEEE with so many of these! It's like why am i not engaged or married yet? Okay, well WHY ARE YOU?! Once you turn it around on them they are like HUH?
    XO,
    Ellen
    www.askawayblog.com

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    1. I once turned the basketball question around on someone and it was quite funny to see his reaction!! I never thought to do that with the marriage question--good thinking!

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  2. I think it's reasonable that you don't like getting asked these questions. Personally, I don't like to be asked questions about myself period. I'm just really private like that, and especially with borrowing things from me, I either say no or just give it to them, because I know I'll never see it as it was again.

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    1. I know, I feel uncomfortable talking about myself with strangers. With my friends it is no big deal, but I feel like I can be socially awkward at times!

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  3. I used to always lend people my books because I wanted to share what I'd read. But lately, people just don't seem to be returning them- even with reminders! So frustrating!

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    1. For real! I am missing at least three books from people...I don't think I'll ever get them back.

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  4. Haha yes to #3 here too. My boyfriend and I have lived together a few years, and the fact that both of us are 30-ish gets a lot of people asking if we plan on getting married. But then when you answer with something like "I don't know" people assume that something's wrong(when it isn't). Seriously though, I don't have any pressing urges to have kids, and other than that I can't think of a reason that we'd NEED to get married now? Ugh. I'll also add people asking casual questions about my career goals at parties to the list, because frankly if I really want to talk about my life's hopes and dreams with someone it's not going to be for five seconds over cocktail weenies.

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    1. Oh yeah, the career goals one is on my list, too especially because I'm now a licensed teacher and am only subbing. People (who aren't in the field of education themselves) always feel the need to advise me on this and give me useless tips about getting a permanent teaching job.

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  5. I'm so glad I inspired you with this post... can we just mutually agree that people are tacky?

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