Sweet Gestures Get Me Every Time

February 26, 2014
In my heart of hearts I'm a hopeless romantic.  I was trying to think about the nicest things the men I have dated ever did for me, and came up with the following:

* My current boyfriend came to visit me at my apartment in Columbus and knew that I had had a long week at work.  He texted me that he was leaving, and when I came home after a long day, I noticed that he had bought me a whole bunch of groceries.  I just thought that was so thoughtful because he knew that I was having a bad week and that I was running low on food.  I didn't even have to ask him to do that--he just did it on his own!

* My friend Shayna came to visit me in Manfredonia, Italy where I was nannying.  I thought it might be fun to take a day trip with her and to go and explore the town of Vieste, which is famous for its beaches.  Just the weekend before, the weather was perfect and plenty of people were out on the beach.  Of course when Shayna and I went to Vieste it was chilly, so we knew we probably wouldn't want to swim, but we thought we'd just go and sit out on the beach and check out what the town had to offer.  We bought a bus ticket up there and enjoyed ourselves despite the weather.  It started to rain and we were started to freeze, so we went back to the bus station so that we could get a ticket back to Manfredonia.  When we tried to purchase our return tickets, the ticket seller kept telling us no, it was not possible.  We're like,"What do you mean it is not possible?!?"  We were refused a ticket and told that no more buses were going to be running the rest of the day because of a "sciopero."  At that point I knew some conversational Italian, but had no clue what the word sciopero meant and that's the one they kept repeating over and over.  I texted the girl I was nannying and she told me that it meant that the bus drivers were on strike!  I asked the parents of the family I was nannying for if they could take me back, but they couldn't.  I also couldn't get ahold of my boyfriend at the time.  Shayna and I didn't know what to do and started laughing uncontrollably because this was actually the 2nd time we got trapped in a town!  We were literally stuck in that town with no way to get back, and we had only grabbed enough cash for the day and did not bring enough money with us to get a hotel room.  I started joking that maybe we should hitchhike, and Shayna thought that was a good idea.  I felt so awkward sticking my thumb out and was only half-heartedly making an attempt, but every car would just pass us by.  Finally, a car saw us and stopped and offered us a ride back to Manfredonia, but the guys in the car looked completely lecherous.  Shayna thought about jumping in, but I told her there was NO WAY I was getting in the car with those creepy men.  We came up with Plan B, which was to "get supplies."  We bought a whole bunch of food and then found a bench to sit on.  We had our dinner of mozzarella di bufala and thought that we were going to have to spend the night sleeping on those benches like homeless people.  The worst part of it all was that it was raining intermittently and the shops were starting to close so we couldn't run inside anymore.  Finally, my boyfriend at the time called me back and told me he was so sorry that he missed my calls, but that he had been at a cooking class in Foggia.  When I explained to him what happened and how we were stuck, he drove over an hour out of his way to pick up Shayna and I after he had been at that class all day long.  The drive back was supposed to only take about an hour, but it took two because of the terrible fog.  Even though that guy and I broke up and went our separate ways, I will never forget that he did that for me.  He really did come to our rescue that day!

* The first guy I ever became an "official" couple with and I were hanging out a lot as friends.  I told him all of these past horror stories of several guys who had acted interested in me and gave me a single, red rose, but then one of them stood me up for a date and another one took me on just about the worst date I've ever had.  When my friend (who would one day become my boyfriend) and I were working he told me that he thought he left something in my car from when we drove it to Columbus together and asked me if he could have the key to go look for it.  I told him that I had driven a different car to work that day, but told him I would look when I got back to my parents' house.  Then he told me that he just remembered that he probably did leave it in the car I had brought.  I thought that seemed a little weird, but just gave him the key so he could look.  He said he didn't find what he had lost, and I didn't think twice about it.  Then, when I was going home, I saw some beautiful pink carnations on the seat with a nice note from him saying that he hoped he could be different than the other guys (jerks) I had terrible experiences with.  He really put effort and thought into that surprise, and I'll always remember that about him.

* You know the expression, "A way to a man's heart is through is stomach?"  Well, I'm no man, but if a guy can cook, that always gets me every time...mainly because I'm an awful cook.  My ex-boyfriend (the Italian one) went to cooking school, so he did make me a lot of delicious meals.  My sister and her friend both came to visit and he offered to let them both stay the night in his country house so that they would not have to pay for a hotel, and then the next day he prepared an three-course lunch for all of us.  That just meant so much to me because it's one thing to have a guy cook for me, but to have him just do that for my sister made me swoon.

What is the nicest thing a guy has ever done for you?
20 comments on "Sweet Gestures Get Me Every Time"
  1. These are so sweet. One of my favorite things that my boyfriend has done for me is the cookbook he made for me with all my families recipes.

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    1. That is so special and also so practical. What a great gift!

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  2. Joe picked me up at the airport late last night and had a chocolate shake waiting for me when I got in the car- yum!

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  3. My friend spent $80 on an out of print CD for me for my birthday lol

    RIKKI POYNTER
    // RIKKI POYNTER, MAKEUP!

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    1. That's really generous and you know that your friend had to go searching for it if was out of print.

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  4. Aww your stories are so sweet!! A man who can cook is definitely a plus in my book! I would say the nicest thing someone has done for me is write me a love letter everyday that he was gone for a business trip :) Totally made me swoon!

    http://neatly-packaged.blogspot.com/

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    1. Oh, did you just get a love letter then because of the recent business trip? I don't think I've ever gotten a love letter, but would like one or two or three...You know where this is going, hahaha.

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  5. My husband is also a great cook. He will make a pie and put our initials in it. He makes me a cup of tea every morning when I wake up. He runs me a hot bubble bath if I'm tired and/or cold.....I appreciate these little things. Back to your story, when you and your friend were stranded. Kind of scary, but at least you managed to laugh about it and hurray for your boyfriend turning up in the end!

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    1. Those little things really add up and make a big difference in a relationship! Your husband sounds like a real gentleman. :)

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  6. awww so sweet! when i was having a bad day, my husband brought home flowers! which was a big surprised because i'm against flowers (too expensive, they die too fast etc) but that was a nice surprised and made me feel better.

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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    1. Flowers are more special when you don't get them all the time. :)

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  7. Your boyfriend sounds very sweet. and I was just telling people that I need a man who will cook for me.

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    1. I'll do all the dishes, I just want him to cook!!

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  8. That was so sweet! I love gestures like this. I remember once while I was away at school my boyfriend (now husband) was concerned about me driving home alone for the holidays during a snow storm. The roads through that area of Ontario are in the snow belt and sometimes cars end up in the ditch. I was determined not to spend Christmas alone at University so he decided to come and get me. He didn't drive his own car in order for me to have my car at home so he took the train which was delayed for hours, then the train broke down on the tracks. He waited for another couple hours for a bus and rode about 5 hours in a snow storm. The bus couldn't get him close enough so he ended up taking a taxi the rest of the way. He got to my apartment at around 4am and the next day he drove me home in my car! He came all that way just to drive home with me.

    -Erica

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    1. Awww, he wanted to spend Christmas with you. That is the sweetest story ever.

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  9. These are all so sweet :) I'm totally a romantic, too!!

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    1. I like it when I know my boyfriend is thinking of me and shows it somehow! It could be as simple as a nice text.

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  10. Thoughtful gestures (small or large) always win me over too. My current boyfriend does a lot of little stuff for me, probably more than I do for him, haha. Just last week he bought me flowers, and when I asked him why he said "Because it's your birthday next week!" Most people only get flowers *on* their birthday, so I'm not going to complain...

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    1. He sounds like a great guy. I love it that he's buying you birthday gifts in advance. :) Happy early Birthday, by the way!! :D

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