Stupid Comments People Make About my Height + Some Benefits to Being Tall

March 12, 2014
Being tall has its perks, but also its disadvantages!  Mostly what I dislike about being tall is dealing with some rude comments from other people.  Just so you know, I am 6 feet tall, but I didn't get that tall until I was in 11th grade or so, so I never really faced the bullying that a lot of tall girls go through in school.  Thank goodness for that because if I had been 6 feet in junior high, I have a feeling that it would have been brutal for me, especially since many boys did not go through their growth spurts yet.

A picture from my sister's wedding to illustrate how tall I actually am ...Of course I'm the tallest gal in the wedding party.
Anyway, here is what I have to hear over and over again in life:

* "Hey, Stretch!"  One of my friends called me this, and he is a huge jokester, so I'm pretty sure he was just being playful, but I got kind of bothered by it.  When I told him I didn't really like it, he said,"I can't believe no one ever called you Stretch before!"  Then he proceeded to tell me that his ex-girlfriend was the same height or maybe a little taller than me, and that he didn't have a problem with tall women at all.  I have heard "Stretch" again from other acquaintances, and just try to brush it off because I don't think that they really mean anything by it and are probably just trying to engage in some banter with me.  I would be pissed if someone I didn't know said this to me, though!!  I would never, ever comment on a stranger's size and say, "Hey Shorty!" or "Hey Fatso!"

* "Big Bird."   Okay, so it probably didn't help that I used to wear this bright yellow coat for a few years in my early twenties.  Good thing yellow doesn't look very good on me or I might get more comments like that!

* "You're an Amazon woman."  I picture Amazon women as having a lot of muscles and looking kind of manly, but when I question people about why they've said that, most of them are trying to give me a compliment saying that Amazons are tall, beautiful, and strong women.  Still, if you want to give me a compliment, I could think of about a thousand better ones than, "You are an Amazon."

* "Do you play basketball?"  When I tell people no, they usually respond with, "Oh, then you must play volleyball."  I'm not athletic at all, and this is a stereotype that tall people get constantly have to face because of course most basketball players ARE tall.  My 5'4" friend started getting bothered for me that people would always ask me this, so she started answering, "She doesn't play, but I do!"  Even yesterday when I was subbing, I heard one of the boys whisper, "She is about the same height as Shaq."  For the record, Shaq is 7'1".

* "How tall are you?"  As my tall pal said, "If anyone asks me how tall I am, I'm going to respond and then ask them how much they weigh."  That would be pretty funny!  The worst is when I tell people (and by people I mean MEN) that I am 6'0" and they go, "No you're not because I'm 6'3", and you're taller than me."  What I want to tell them is that I'm sorry that they feel the need to lie about their height, or that they choose to measure themselves by the stickers posted near the doors of gas stations.  Instead,  I just tell them that that's what the doctors have all told me.  I've been measured time and time again, and it always says the same thing.  People at my work kept talking about it, so my former boss actually posted a memo all about my height after she measured me herself!  She wrote in the memo that I was 6'0", that she was 5'10" and that another manager was 5"10" with his 'high heels' (he wore some shoes that added a couple of inches.)  After she posted the memo, I guess she heard our co-workers talking about it saying that they didn't believe I was 6'0" and all we could do was laugh because people will believe what they want to believe.  At least the 5 other workers that saw me getting measured knew the truth!  

* "How tall are your parents?" This question usually comes after a rude comment about my height.  A co-worker told me that I should just answer back that my parents are dead.

* "Is it hard for you to find a boyfriend because you're so tall?"  Really???  You're going to ask a complete stranger this question?  I had a conversation with a customer that went something like this:

Him: "You are so tall.  You are like a giant.  How tall are you?"
Me: "Six feet tall."
Him: "I feel bad for you because there's no way that you could possibly have a boyfriend." (At this point his wife slugged him.)
Me: "Actually, I do."
Him (looking shocked): "Oh, wow."  ::pause::  "Well, how tall is he?"

Seriously!?  I think he thought it was okay to make these comments because it's about height and not weight, but I found him pretty offensive and only answered his idiotic questions because I was at work.

* "Why do you wear heels?"  Truthfully, I don't wear heels that often because I find them uncomfortable, but on occasion, I will wear heels because I like the look of the shoes.  I just don't appreciate the tone of this question because I feel like those who ask it are insinuating that I shouldn't be "allowed" to wear them since I'm tall enough already.

* "Are you standing on something?"  This usually gets asked to me when I'm behind a counter at places that I've worked at.  Once I told a guy that I wasn't, and then he asked if I was wearing heels.  I told him I was not, and he told me he didn't believe me and then kept asking to look at my foot over and over.  He really wouldn't shut up, so I embarrassingly had to show him so he would go away!!!  Good grief!

* "I really like tall girls."  You would think that this would be something I would want to hear, but considering the fact that the men who utter this statement to me are incredibly creepy, no, it is NOT what I want to hear at all.

* "Are you a tranny?"  Okay, I only got asked this once, but this comment really got to me because it happened to me when I was a lot younger.  I was at a bar with my friends, and some guys were trying to flirt with me, and I brushed them off.  I guess that made them mad, because then they started taunting me and asked if I used to be a man.  The friend that was with me assured me that the guys were just mad because I wasn't talking to them, so they said that to me to try to make themselves feel better about the rejection.  I still think that this was probably one of the worst things people have said to me about my height, though.

I now work with a girl who is 4'11" and noticed that people have been saying all sorts of mean things to her about her height, too.  Someone told me that she shouldn't be allowed to work because she could barely see over the register.  Then, another man told me that I should get her a stool and kept laughing over it.  I don't see how people think it is okay to make such hurtful comments!

When I was in my early twenties, I was much more insecure about my height and got upset when people would say these things to me, but now all I want to do is roll my eyes.  I find some a lot of what people say now to be pretty amusing and it just makes me judge them for judging me.  I can't change the way I am, and frankly, there's a lot worse things to be in life than tall!

Since I want to end on a positive note, here's what I like about being tall:

* I can see over most people in a crowd, so I get good views at concerts and other events.
* People always let me ride shotgun, no matter how much I insist that I would be perfectly comfortable in the backseat of a car.
* I instantly bond with other tall girls because they know how it is!  My former boss who was 5'10" told me, "I just liked you right away because you are tall like me."
* My legs are super long.
* People will compliment me on my height and then say that they wished they were taller.
* Weight gain is less noticeable on taller people, meaning that I can gain ten pounds and no one really notices.
* There is an expression in Italian, that goes something like this, "If you are tall, you are already half beautiful."  Meaning, you could be butt-ugly and still be considered half beautiful.

Do people ever give you grief or say obnoxious things about the way you look?
34 comments on "Stupid Comments People Make About my Height + Some Benefits to Being Tall"
  1. hahah loved this! I'm pretty tall, too! So I get this ALLLL the time. best thing is all my friends are about an average of 5'2'' !

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    1. A lot of my friends are super short, so it's always nice when I have one that is about the same height as me! It's rare, but it happens. :)

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  2. Oh my gosh this is so great! I've been 'the tall girl' since 3rd grade and was 5'11" in 8th grade. Thankfully I was never made fun of, but I really just love it. The worst part of it is when people (guys) have a problem with you being tall when you don't at all... um sorry that you're insecure about your height and I'm not?! Hahaha. Great post!!

    Meredith | Monogram Meredith

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    1. I know! The way some guys talk to me is crazy! It's like they want me to apologize or justify my height by saying I'm a basketball player.

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  3. I'm sorry you have to endure that ignorance! Most of the women in my family are 5'10 - 6'1" so I always thought being 5'8" was short :)

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    1. That's funny that you're the short one out of your relatives because I'm the tall one out of my relatives. My brother is the same height as me, and my sisters are 5'6" and 5'8".

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  4. People get rude comments on anything that makes them different than the norm and I think its stupid. People really need to get over it and keep their arrogant comments to themselves! So you're tall, so what! You are beautiful and talented too.

    -Erica

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    1. I totally agree that anyone who is a little different gets bugged. In my early education classes I want to teach a lot about empathy and acceptance! Luckily, I don't get bothered all the time about it. Thankfully, strangers on the street don't really stop me...well, maybe they did in other countries, but not here in the States.

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  5. I'm not as tall as you but I still don't wear heels often because I feel awkward towering over other people. And what the heck are people thinking saying these things to you?!

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    1. Yeah, the time I got called the tranny was the time I wore 3 inch heels, so it has made me a bit paranoid!! I really like the look of heels, but I don't usually go for anything above 3 inches.

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  6. love all of these! i'm 5'11 and definitely heard a bunch of them! I read a book called "The Tall Book" or something and I loved it and did you know there's a tall people convention every summer in Finland (I think) and it lasts a week! Women have to be 5'10'' and men have to be 6'3'' ... my life goal is to go one year! haha

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    1. I read that book, too! It was pretty funny, and I could relate when she was saying how she could see over all the dressing room/bathroom doors and it was awkward for her. I have a German friend who is 6'3" and she told me about the Tall Convention!! That would be so weird, but I am kinda curious!

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  7. Oh my goodness. People will always have something to say, it seems, but I really can't understand commenting on a stranger's or acquaintance's appearance in general. I have heard people use the term "Amazon beauty" as a compliment, though maybe that's a strange word to use. I'm actually a regular-sized girl in a relatively tall family--I've got a little sister who's 5'8" and aunt who's just shy of 6 foot, and a little girl cousin who is in middle school and 5'11'', and all of the men except one uncle who married in are 6 foot or taller.
    And even though I'm not tall, my husband's about the same height as I am--standing next to my Dad, uncles, little brother and sisters we look like mini-people even though we're between 5'5"-5'6".

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    1. Yeah, I don't know how to take, "You're an Amazon woman." Like are they calling me tall and pretty or just calling me a tall, giant freak?

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  8. Although I'm only 5'8 I feel your pain! Only tall girls can model, so we're beautiful :)

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    1. That would be one assumption that I would gladly take over basketball player!!

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  9. What an interesting post! I honestly don't even notice height unless you are reallllllly that much shorter than me. I think you are beautiful Lisa: inside and out :) I say kick someone next time they are rude and say you didn't see them :p But that is just the evil in me :) Thanks for sharing and stay positive. Rude people have no place in this world!

    http://neatly-packaged.blogspot.com/

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    1. Aw, you're too sweet! And the whole "kick them" made me chuckle!

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  10. I cannot even believe that people would say those things to you. Tranny? There's no way you could have a boyfriend?? That seems insane to me. I could see people saying those kinds of things on the internet (because let's face it, people are cowardly and say awful things with the anonymity that technology offers)... but to your face? I didn't realize that tall girls had it so rough. I'm only 5'2" so I definitely fall in that category of girls who wish they were taller. There is a good chance that my daughter will be tall (she's in the 90th percentile for height and takes after her dad) so it's probably good for me to be aware of these potential comments. It makes me so mad that people could be so hurtful. Don't listen to them. You are beautiful!

    Also, I stumbled onto your blog from Erica Jacqueline and I'm glad I did. I'm now following :)

    Autumn
    theausamlife.blogspot.com

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    1. Oh, my sister was in the 90th percentile when she was younger and she ended up being 5'8". I was always off the charts. I have learned to brush these comments off. Usually the people that say those things to me need to take a long, hard look in the mirror! There's plenty I could say back to them about the way they look, but I just try to ignore them!

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  11. I always wished I was taller, I think tall women look so powerful and beautiful. Those are not nice names to be called but it is great to read the positive side of it!

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    1. Yes, besides the dumb comments and sometimes struggling to find pants that are long enough, I don't really mind being tall at all.

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  12. And I have the opposite problem, I'm very short. I am sick of being bumped into, having back packs slung into my face and being overlooked. I once was on my commuter bus and the driver thought the bus was empty and he started to turn around before my stop which was the end of the line. I said, 'HEY! What are you doing??' He goes, 'Oh sorry! I didn't see you.' My 6'3" fiance' has to bend so far down to hug me and we can't even dance together b/c my face is buried in his stomach. lol

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    1. I told my friend who is 4'11" this and she laughed! Backpacks to the face does not sound like a good time. I promise to look before I put mine on!

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  13. Stopping by from Kate's blog!

    My BFF is 5'11 and is always slouching. I think tall is beautiful!

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    1. I tend to slouch in the presence of my shorter guy friends. It's a bad habit!

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  14. Um, CRINGE. I can't believe people would say stuff like that. I have a very average height of 5'5", and sometimes I wish I was taller so I could reach the tops of our kitchen cabinets, haha. I actually had to buy a little stepstool so I could! So I can definitely see the perks of being tall. :)

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    1. I left the worst comment I've ever gotten out of the post. It's just too disturbing to even write it! There is a stool at my work, but usually the shorter gals just ask me or some of the guys to get them what they need.

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  15. As a a 5'10 lady I have heard these too! I hate Amazon woman took, It makes me feel manly and I am not manly.

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    1. I know, I feel like that, too. I always picture some super hero or some woman who is half naked with all of her bulging muscles showing.

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  16. Oh my goodness, I just did a post on my blog about the pros and cons of being short! Love this contrast!

    Vianney
    http://memosandmimosas.blogspot.com/

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    1. Cool! I'd love to hear what you have to say and will go on over and give it a read. :)

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  17. I always wanted to be taller, even though (at 5'7") I'm apparently slightly taller than average. Primarily, I think, because of that weight distribution thing. But my cousin is 6' tall and she gets the "you'll never be able to find a boyfriend" thing often...which is insulting AND stupid because who looks for a potential mate based on their height?! (my boyfriend is short than I am....and in May I will be the tallest woman in my brother's wedding, by several inches...taller even than one of the groomsmen!).

    I'm glad you're proud of your tallness, even though folks use it as a way to single you out, and make (intentionally) rude comments about it.

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    1. I would date a guy that's shorter than me. In fact, my own boyfriend is like a half and inch shorter than me!

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