Roommates: The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly

June 19, 2014
When it comes to having roommates or sharing an apartment, I lived with about 20 different people throughout my college and adult life. I've lived with both females and males and also with people from different parts of the world like Hong Kong and Canada. Most of them were my age, but one was 7 years younger and at one point I lived with a man in his 60's. That sounds totally creepy, but he was actually a really cool guy and one of the best roommates I ever had. (He was a friend of a friend who was renting a room out of his BEAUTIFUL home that was featured on t.v. and was in the Parade of Homes!  It was one of the better places that I've lived in!) I've also lived with friends that I knew ahead of time, but I've also had to live with strangers. I was put in a situation where I had to find a roommate fast, and even had to meet someone off of Craig's List, which I would probably never do again. Most of my experiences living with others have been just fine, but the last roommate I had was so terrible that it made shudder at the thought of having a roommate again.  My most recent roommate and some other roommates I had made me think that living with others was something I should leave behind in my 20's.  Why?  Well, I once had a roommate who:

*bought a bunny one day without talking it over with me or my other roommate.
*chewed tobacco and then would spit it in the kitchen sink with our dishes.
* was soooo needy and would be knocking at my door "to hang out" every few minutes.
* had a boyfriend that lived with us.  When I mean lived with us, I mean that he stayed over every single night, yet he paid nothing in rent.  
* would binge eat food that did not belong to her.  She once ate 26 of my other roommate's cookies, ha!
*lost a lot of hair in the shower, which is fine except for that instead of throwing it away, she would wad it into a ball and "paste" it on the shower wall!!  (Kid you not!)
* had a hedgehog that hated and hissed at all girls, and it lived with four of them!

Of course there are far worse things that some roommates I had did, but I'll leave those to your imagination!  When my friend Everett approached me about moving into his place for a bit, I was hesitant because of the fact that I would, once again, have two roommates.  Not of all of my roommate experiences have been bad, and I certainly loved living with several of my roommates, but there's always a risk involved that one might not be compatible with the people they live with.  I have, on the other hand, always enjoyed living alone, so I had to give this some careful consideration.  In the end, I decided to go for it because the good outweighed the bad.

Here are some benefits to living with two of my guy friends:

*I'll never not be in good company.
*These guys are ones that I have known well for years and are not just going to turn into raging psychos (at least I hope not!!)
* They have the cutest dachshund, and I've always wanted a dog, but never could growing up and then it wasn't possible because I was traveling too much and too busy with grad school.  This will be a good opportunity to test the waters and see how I like it, yet not actually be committed in any way or have to deal with the expenses that come along with a pet.
* I won't be scared since two guys will be around.  Living by myself can sometimes be creepy...especially after watching a scary movie.
* One of the guys was born and raised in the Savannah area and is more than willing to show me around.
* One of them likes to cook!  I wouldn't mind doing some sampling! :)
* Everett is a really talented pianist who will fill the room with beautiful music.  
* And, of course, our bills will be a whole lot cheaper because the three of us will be splitting them.  Since I don't have a job lined up, this is surely in my best interest. 


The two pals I'm sharing a place with

One of my closest friends who is a former roommate of mine

What have been your best and worst experiences with roommates?  
Post Comment
Kiki said...

I have been lucky in having good luck with room mates. My room mate when I was living in Australia though was really needed as well and made me feel guilty for hanging out with people other than her which wasn't quite difficult since we were living in a student accommodation with people from all over the world to meet!

Lora Ashley said...

I have had great roommate experiences but the one bad one I had outweighs the good. She would steal my food AND my clothes without asking me, would forget her key and wake me up at 3AM to get in, would turn on the bright lights when she got home late and I was sleeping, yelled and fussed and pitched fits all the time! She was awful. I am so glad that I got out of that situation and fast!

Kate @ Another Clean Slate said...

My boyfriend has the worst roommate. His girlfriend is there all the time, even while no one else is at home. She leaves her makeup everywhere and is a mess. I can't handle it!

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I've had mostly good roommate experiences, thank God!

Brittney, Breaking Free said...

Everytime I've had roommates the fights were the funniest (looking back) one time me and my best friend got in a huge fight over toilet paper LOL

The Rachael Way said...

If I end up in Savannah after China we can totally be roommates <3 Love you!!

Alison said...

I am the worst at living with roommates, I've discovered. My first college roommate listened to extremely loud rap music at all hours, and even if she wasn't there, left her radio on all the damn time. I turned it off once and she reamed me out for touching her stuff! She also used to leave the windows open, which is fine, except that she did so when it was snowing. NOT OKAY.

My second roommate, who moved in during second semester b/c the first one and I couldn't stand each other, was AWESOME and she is one of my best friends. We loved hanging out, but also had similar study and work habits, so we were able to get a lot of work done.

I shared an apartment with 3 girls in college, and one of them turned out to be extremely racist and anti-semetic, so THAT was fun because the 2 other girls who had moved in were Indian and Jewish. Needless to say, the racist/anti-semetic girl moved out. QUICKLY.

Now, I live with my husband and he is the best roommate EVER. I was worried about living with someone on a permanent basis, but we lived together for about a year before we were married and it has seriously been the best. I love coming home to him!

Nancy @ Neatly-Packaged said...

This really made me laugh! You know I never had any roommates. I kid you not. My mom was so concerned with having a place to stay when she came to visit me in university that she got me my own apartment. The only person I have ever lived with beside my parents and siblings is my fiance. I am lucky he is a clean freak like me :)

http://neatly-packaged.blogspot.com/

Rebecca B. Bird said...

Roommates can be such a mixed bag. Even if you're friends with a person first, you can't always predict what they'll be like to live with! I'd say most of my experiences have been good or only slightly annoying (like people who are a bit messy), but for a while I was renting a room in this house that was also occupied by the owner (who I think was pretty close to my age). She was like ... legit crazy. One time I came home and she had an epic freakout, accusing me of repotting all her plants?! I don't even know where to begin with that.

Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMee said...

Spit tobacco in the sink with your dishes?! WHAT THE WHAT?! *dry heave*

Ashlynn B said...

Some people are disgusting! Lol, that's why I like to live alone, well, other than with my family. My husband and I had a roomate who was our friend and he didn't have a job for a little while, so we cut him slack on chipping in. When he finally did get a job, he still didn't chip in or back pay. We didn't want to ask, so we just told him we needed the space for my son. Needless to say, we don't speak to him anymore...

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

Clingy roommates are no fun at all!! I like people who enjoy hanging out but that also respect that I want some alone time to read or blog!

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

That sounds like a total nightmare! I lived with a roommate that stole my other roommate's clothes. I was glad she couldn't steal mine because she was like 5'1" and I'm 6'0"!

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

YES, that's how it was with my roommate's boyfriend! He was ALWAYS there. He ate there, showered there, and slept there. Hopefully your boyfriend's lease is up soon so he won't have to suffer longer.

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

You're lucky!! I wish I could say the same, but I had to deal with some really psycho behavior!

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

Yes, the only fight my best friend and I ever got in was an ongoing one about the temperature of the room. I'd always be turning it up and she'd always be turning it down. The heating vents were over on her side, so I'd be over there freezing and she'd be over on her side suffocating. I blame the layout of the room for that one.

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

Sounds good to me! :)

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

Why on earth would you leave the window open while it was snowing?? That's just asking for a huge gas bill! Good thing your 2nd roommate turned out to be better than the first.
That's great that you and your husband are so compatible!

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

Wow, that's pretty rare to not have had any roommates! I'm glad Russ is a clean freak like you or that would not be a good combination!!

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

All of my bad experiences have been with people who were complete strangers, but it's true that risk is involved even when you already know the person well. That is really bizarre about her accusing you of re-potting her plants!! Where do people come up with some of this stuff!?

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

He did it even AFTER my other roommate and I told him to please not do that!

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

I don't blame you for cutting that guy out of your lives! He sounds like a big user!

Jenn @ hellorigby! said...

I'm so glad you're going to have good roommates! Your other roommates sound awful. The chew spitting sounds absolutely barf worthy. I do the same thing with my hair to keep it from clogging the drain, but I ALWAYS throw it in the garbage. Some people are so weird!

I've had a couple of doozies myself...
My first roommate in college was great when we lived in the dorm... but for some reason when we moved into an apartment in year 2, she went crazy, like swearing under her breath at me. So bizarre! Another housemate I lived with my junior year had some legal issues and bailed on college... but she still was supposed to be paying rent! Well, she wasn't, so we got an eviction notice without knowing what was going on. We had to pay for the rent she owed to not get kicked out of the place. Luckily, she paid us back by the end of the summer, but it was such a nightmare.

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

Oh my gosh, thank goodness I never had to deal with people not paying their portion of the rent!!

Kristen said...

wow! this is crazy. i have never really had roommates, i lived with my mum (and brothers, ugh) until 23 and then i moved in with a friend, her husband and her 10 year old when i moved to the US. I tried to be a good guest, and i knew them already and it was fun but definitely not my kind of thing. i like my own space. i was only there for 3 months and then moved out with my now husband. so phew, thankfully never had to deal with that. i do like my own space and people bug me haha so i dont think i'd make a good roommate. glad you got some good ones!

Lisa @ Ameliorer la Vie said...

I don't think I'd be able to share a room with someone again--too old for that, but I can share a place no problem, assuming my roommates are considerate!

Post a Comment