What I'm Not Good At

October 7, 2014
So, awhile ago, Becca came up with a list of blogging prompts to use for future posts.  I already used one of her ideas over the summer and wrote about my life in numbers, and today I chose to go with another one of her prompts which is writing about what I'm not good at.  So, what am I not good at?  There are so many things!

* I'm terrible at remembering people's names when I first meet them in group settings.  I have social anxiety disorder, but I'm very good at hiding it, so I think (hope!) that I seem normal when I first meet people.  Even though I may appear calm, cool, and collected on the outside, on the inside there are a million thoughts racing through my head.  Since I get so nervous when I meet people for the first time, I'm preoccupied with that and don't focus on trying to remember names/other details.  I've been in situations where people expect that I should know their names since they told me them once already, and I totally don't.  When this happens, I just try to avoid using their names altogether and act like I do know who is who.  Sometimes it gets past the appropriate point of asking someone what their name is again, so I'll just pray that someone around me says it so I can learn that way!  I'm pretty sure that some of my acquaintances think I'm dumb because on occasion I'll have to whisper to them, "What was that lady's name again?"  Sometimes I'll just say, "How does she spell her name?" to try to trick people into telling me someone's name indirectly.  :)

* Cooking.  I'm starting to get a little better at this, but still have some cooking disasters!  I'm not a big meat-eater (though I do like an occasional burger), and do not really like dealing with raw meat.  I usually just stick to veggie burgers and eggs rather than handle meat, although some crock pot recipes are not that bad.

* Anything musical.  As an adult, I found my pre-K developmental checklist that my preschool teachers filled out about me.  Of course, since I majored in early childhood education I got a kick out of reading that because I've had to use similar checklists to observe students in a daycare/pre-K setting.  Anyway, I got a check mark by almost everything on the list, but there were a few I didn't get.  As I read over the list, I saw that three of them were related to music!  One of them said something along the lines of, "I can clap to the beat of the song."  Another one went like this, "I can sing simple songs in tune." Yeah, I didn't get the check for that one either.  About four years ago, I had to take two music classes as a part of my program requirement.  We had to take tests on paper, and those were no problem at all for me--I got high A's on them, but we also had to complete a whole checklist of musical tasks, and that was like torture.  Thank goodness that the tasks were just pass/fail because if I got graded on them, I probably would have gotten some pretty low grades!  We had to learn how to play simple songs on the piano, play songs on the recorder, and take these quizzes online and mark whether or not a note was major or minor.  There were a bunch of other tasks we were required to do, but you get the idea.  Unfortunately, I was the only student in the whole class who hadn't played a musical instrument at some point in my life, so that only made me look worse in comparison to the other students.  By the last day of our music class, we had to complete everything off of the list my professor had created or else he wouldn't give us a final grade.  It came right down the the wire for me because the last day of class was approaching and I still hadn't attempted to play the recorder in front of my professor because I didn't feel like I was ready.  He gave us a list of ten songs that we had to learn and then would randomly pick about three songs from the list to play for our assessment.  I begrudgingly signed up to take the test on the last day of the quarter and headed into his office. The first one he picked was fine, but then he picked the one that was the hardest for me to play.  I remember sitting there with my fingers shaking and getting through the song at a snail's pace.  He actually said to me, "Well, you played the song, so I do have to give you credit, but you went through it so slowly that I could have driven to Starbucks, came back, and drank my coffee by the time you finished."  I did end up with an A in the course, but there is NO WAY I would ever apply to be a music teacher.  Also, if music was a core component of the curriculum like language arts or math, I'm sure I would've had to go to a special education class for it because something about it just doesn't click for me.



* Dancing.  All right, I just told y'all about how I terrible I am at following beats/rhythms, so obviously when it comes to dancing, I'm the worst!  In the past, a lot of my friends loved to go out dancing, and I would go with them and eventually dance, but it's just not really fun for me.  Since I'm tall, I stand out in a crowd, so I feel like people will notice my bad moves more since I stick out, hahaha.

* Keeping up with the latest technology.  

* Pull ups, chin ups, push ups, or anything that involves the use of upper arm strength.  In middle school we were tested on how many chin ups we could do, which for me was zero.  Our P.E. teacher also tested us on how long we could hold ourselves up on the bar, and it was always SO EMBARRASSING for me because a lot my classmates would be able to do it for over a minute and I would get like 2 seconds because my chin would immediately hit the bar.  I've never been able to do a single regular push up...all of my strength is in my legs!


* Snowboarding.  I thought it would be fun to try snowboarding, so I went with two of my friends in Korea who had a friend who said he could teach all of us how to snowboard.  It was seriously so hard for me!  One of my friends, who had only gone once before, seemed to have no struggles at all.  Part of the problem was that it was very difficult for me to push myself up while my feet were on the snowboard because, like I just mentioned in the previous point, I have no upper arm strength.  In the end I got so frustrated that I gave up, sat on my snowboard, and used it to go down the hill like a sled.

* Losing weight.  I maintained a certain weight for years, but then when I came back from Korea in 2009, I started packing on the pounds.  I have gone on several fad diets/cleanses and lost some weight, but I always gain it back when I start eating carbs again.

We all have our weaknesses, and these are some of mine!  What are some things you're just not good at?
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Kathy@Vodka and Soda said...

pull ups are not easy!! took me months to develop the upper body strength to do them but it is totally possible :)

-kathy
Vodka and Soda

Carly Blogs Here said...

I'm really bad at names too! The only thing I've (slowly) improved on with age, is feeling less awkward just asking people again!

Kate @ Another Clean Slate said...

Dancing and music are my downfalls too. No rhythm here!

Jenn @ Business, Life & Design said...

I'm bad with names, too! I'm trying to make friends with our neighbor, and we had introduced ourselves several months ago, and I absolutely could not remember. I got lucky, though, and she introduced herself again. Probably she didn't remember mine either!
My new system for remembering names is to put them in my "contacts" list in my phone asap. Usually, once I see them written down, it's way easier to remember (visual learner), but I make notes, just in case I forget who it is, and then I know where to look it up if I ever need it again.

Rebecca B. Bird said...

I'm so bad at remembering people's names the first time I meet them too. I usually end up asking someone else later what so-and-so's name is because I'm embarrassed to ask again!

Becca Dorr said...

I'm awful at remembering names too. This may or may not be why I usually prep/facebook stalk beforehand!

Kaelene @ Unlocking Kiki said...

I have such a hard time remembering names! Especially now in Iceland when I can hardly pronounce their names to being with.

Kristen Warren said...

i am pretty sucky at names, and i cant do a pull up but i can do a push up. and so can you, i promise ;) different muscles, just keep trying!

Jenn said...

I have the same name problem too, especially if I'm being introduced to multiple people at once. I also do the thing where I think I remember, but I'm too nervous to get it wrong, so I just ask someone else to make sure I got their name right!

Rachael said...

You just make me laugh. I MISS YOU GURL.

Janeen Martin Miller said...

This made me laugh when I read about the dancing & the bar hangs. LOL. I hated the bar hang!

Lisa K said...

Yeah, it seriously hurt my chin because it got knocked every single time I would even attempt it!

Lisa K said...

Hahaha, glad you liked it!! I miss you, too!

Lisa K said...

Oh yeah!! Same thing was true for me in Korea. Also, I feel bad because my Chinese teaching partner says that I say her name wrong, but after mannnny attempts, I still can't get it right!

Lisa K said...

I can do "girl" push ups only! Even when I was a kid I couldn't do them and I was in gymnastics. It would be pretty amazing if I could get it to where I could do a real one,

Lisa K said...

Is it bad that I have to ask multiple times?

Lisa K said...

That's a good strategy!

Lisa K said...

I know!! I feel even worse when they refer to me by my name and I still don't know theirs!

Lisa K said...

That is a good idea!! I'm really stingy with giving out my number, though, hahaha...

Lisa K said...

I wish there were more options at weddings than to just dance...I always feel so bored when everyone else is out dancing and I don't really want to!

Lisa K said...

Good for you! :) I know that my, "Oh how do you spell your name again?" is going to backfire on me one day when the answer is, "Jane."

Lisa K said...

I think I'll stick to trying push ups first, then!!

Samantha Curtis said...

I am absolutely HORRIBLE at remembering names. Literally the second they are done saying their name I am trying to remember what their name is. It's like short term memory loss...just for names.

Kristen Warren said...

girl push ups are still push ups! you can get there, i promise. just make it a priority, do ten girl push ups and one real push up every day and all of a sudden you'll get there - even if on the first day (month) you can't push up at all from the 'real' one. i couldn't even do girly ones when i started!

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

Co-sign my name next to musical things and dancing. I am a big nicknamer. It runs in my family but it does help me to remember names!

Lisa K said...

Yep!! It's like it goes in one ear and out the other. It's kind of embarrassing!!

Lisa K said...

Oh, that would definitely help...even if I give some people nicknames mentally only, hahaha.

erica said...

OMG I'm not good at remembering people's names when I first meet them either but I never forget a face!

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